Thank you for this excellent site. I want to share the following 2 books that I have searched long and hard for that have been incredibly helpful. I have been the victim of 10+ Narc sociopaths/ Abusers in my life including the latest who I just realized has been grooming me for the past 2 months. These books are practical guides on how to spot this behavior in advance and how to recover if you have been sucked in to the madness.
"Why Does He Do That: Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men" by Lundy Bancroft
This therapists has worked with thousands of these men and his insight is invaluable.
"Healing the Trauma of Domestic Violence: A Workbook for Women"
This workbook practical guide and activity book for taking steps to recover your life, identify abuse as early as possible and move on.
Good luck, my sisters. Know that this is a widespread phenomenon. You have been targeted and it is not your fault, you are a good person. Stay strong, forgive yourself and be proud of who you are.
Sadie said:May 11, 2013 3:20 pm PST
It's weird as a nurse I know what a narcissistic sociopath is and even then I got suckered into his grasp. He is controlling and manipulative and a liar but even though he can still make me feel like I am his whole life and he truly adores me. It engulfs you slowly then you are stuck and can't seem to get out of their grips. Still here sitting in the reality of it all. now on antidepressants and antianxiety meds and completely isolated took me 12 hours away from my family and friends.
Elaine said:March 23, 2013 11:26 am PST
I just escaped a sociopath, after 11 months of HELL! Swept me off my feet so easily/quick, I married him in a month! He is so good, that he fooled all the church folks & could speak without missing a beat, till they made him associate Pastor; all the while I wanted to scream out in church, that they saw a different 'person' than I did, in private. It has been a nightmare... They have the devil in their pulpit, & no one even believes me!!!!
Lori said:January 23, 2013 5:43 pm PST
Thank you, you have given me hope that others have been in the same boat as me. All I can say is sociopaths = pure evil. The man who nearly destroyed my life was a so-called big wig at a company. He harassed all the women, lied to his wife constantly. Stole company money, had been in trouble with the law over 50x, got fired started his own company with a one word difference in the name just for spite. Acts Christian only to run with the devil so to speak. He was down right abusive towards women-making fun of their weight, their clothes, their hair, their automobiles, where they lived, and how much money they have. He caused so much pain and strife in my life, I can't even continue speaking of it. Hopefully, what goes around comes around in his lifetime.
I just bought your book for my Kindle while sitting at a coffee shop without my Kindle, so I hope it mysteriously pops up on my Kindle when I get home. I'm so weird...I don't know why I would purchase it when I don't even have my Kindle with me: ) (lol)