As someone who survived a 20 year marriage with a sociopath, I'm always willing to hear stories about others' experiences. However, I have a critique for this book: I read it last night and am disappointed by it. It is written in a derogatory style. For those that haven't interfaced a sociopath and don't get the author's misgivings for sociopathic behavior, this writing strategy reflects poorly on the writer as it takes away from how powerful the book could be- examples speak strongly by themselves. It also is hard to follow in places.
Help said:March 8, 2014 1:31 am PST
I have been married to a narcissistic sociopath for over a year. Your book is like a biography of my life! Despite the sociopath's manipulation and lies, he convinces me that he's the most honest person in the world and that I lie! He fooled our church and our friends and his family cover for him. He has no real friends, he blames his first marriage on his "bi-polar ex-wife", he is intensively jealous and possessive and insisted that I give up my high profile corporate job to work with him so that we could "spend more time together and have lunch every day". I'm highly educated and wonder how I could have been so stupid! He broke my spirit and changed me from a bubbly, giggly girl into a petrified, drained woman without a voice. These people are like parasites, they suck the life out of your soul and get off on watching you crumble and break. They have no conscience so he happily destroys and hurts my friends to get back at me. The deception is criminal - he financed hundreds of thousands of dollars in MY name and committed identity fraud! Yet, he tells me that if I expose him, he will "never lose" as he is untouchable and can get around the law. He uses hackers and criminals to get his way and terrorise me. Yet to those who see his "outside personality" he is personable, warm (he can "fake emotions" like a pro), helpful and sincere. But once you get to know the delusional, grandiose person, Jekyl turns into Hyde very quickly. They rule their victims by threats, intimidation, control (emotional, physical and financial) and fear. I left him a few months ago but he still pervades my life and has crippled me financially. He threatens to "destroy me and calculate it so that there's no way out" if I "hurt" him ('hurting' him means his delusional mind reading me telling the truth as words designed to 'hurt' him). Is there any real way to escape this monster without destroying my should and fragile emotional state??
Susy said:December 25, 2013 4:20 am PST
I'm adult female survivor but never put the blame on my mother's verbal abuse, I am amazed at all the knowledge I'm gaining thru research! Wow!!! I can attest to the long lasting affects that my life instilled! But healing is wonderous and empowering!
Beverly Moss said:October 30, 2013 1:42 pm PST
I am intrigued with your web site. Please visit me at www.lyingbastardshemingbitch.com. Would love to include your link. Even though I don't have a degree in psychology, I've had a lifetime of dealing with sociopaths. They say experience is the best teacher and it looks like we
have a lot to say.
Christina said:October 17, 2013 5:47 am PST
I want to add that the "prison" in which you find yourself with these individuals is not a real one made of bars and cement, its in your mind. That is what they build within you using mind games, mental torment. Equally, then, you have the power to not enter that prison or give it substance. The ONLY power they have is the power you give them. Know the behavior so you do NOT go there, so that they cannot influence you. Walking away physically is not enough. You need to retrain your mind not to go there ever again. These individuals are everywhere trawling for their next victim. Arm yourself. You have all the power.